As my title says.. I cannot understand why some people choose to judge/condemn others in no time at all. It was my Friendster's shout out for many weeks.
One just has to make a vague statement, and suddenly he/she finds himself being labelled this this that that and so on in others' opinions.
I've been judged many times, I know, by many people. Well, not many, just a handful of people who just have this irrepressible urge to condemn others, to put them below their station, to make them an immoral creature as compared to themselves, to make them snobbish, arrogant, you name it.
Then, there are others who just LOVE to contradict whoever they are talking to, pointing out their flaws immediately, and going into an in depth detail discussion of why that person's view is wrong.
Ok, let's admit, most of us are like that. I am too.. and I'm ashamed to admit that. I've been trying to change, yes, but sometimes the old me just slips back and I find myself mentally praising myself for being so upright compared to that wretched poor immoral fella, and verbally telling that person why he/she is so wrong in blablabla.
When I find myself (unfairly) judged, I usually keep mum about it, and choose to boil in anger instead, if I find that judgement absolutely wrong(in my eyes).
It's taken me a long time, but now I'm slowly learning that the best way is to keep my gap shut, so people will think I'm tongue-less, no opinion, whatever else they choose to think. Back to my silent days when young...
Oh, you didn't know I suffered from a disorder when young? haha! Unbelievable, eh? JOANNE?? SILENT?? Believable to those who receive my silence, unbelievable to those who hear me chatter non-stop.
Oh great, now you're gonna say I've got split personality.
Mute days are over anyhow, in my life. =P But that's another story.. that I doubt I'll ever reveal..
"Joanne's being secretive! She has a lot of dark secrets in her life!!! Be careful of her.. she only LOOKS innocent.."
Gee, judging me, AGAIN???!
Someone once told me I can't play badminton.. why? Because of my built(more specifically, my height). That person has never ever seen me play badminton before. When I coolly informed him that I've beaten players a head taller than me, lost to players shorter than me, he immediately went into defensive mode, saying I-don't-remember-what, and I further went on to tell him, I lacked in height, maybe, but my stamina and skill makes up for it, and here's the line that stunned me into silence,
"Then if one day you meet a girl that's taller than you, has better skill, equal stamina, how?"
I bit back my sharp retort of, "Then I'll just LOSE LOR!"
Hahahaha! Losing so hard meh? In any sport we have to accept defeats, celebrate wins. Is there such a thing as a player who never ever lost in their sport??
Anyway, I'm going off-topic now, my point is, that person was quick to judge me when seeing my height(lack of, anyway).
The only person I will not blame if I'm considered slow/something-wrong is.. *drum roll*
MY PIANO TEACHER(s)!!!
I think my last teacher still has nightmares about me.
Many people were surprised with my SPM results because they thought I only played badminton and did nothing else. After that, they say.. 'blind chickens can get worms too'.
I give up. We humans just love judging others.
2.23am now. Logging off. Nitez, God bless.
Oh, and remember, think twice before you reach a hasty conclusion about anyone! You are DEAD WRONG about your conclusion/opinion/judgement.
Ooops, wasn't that a hasty judgement by itself?
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